But I've learned that there is a difference between being lonely and being alone. Lonely is when you find yourself sending that text or responding to one that you know you shouldn't, or open up those spiritual doors that GOD had closed a long time ago just so you can feel something. Alone is knowing that you're worth more than text messages and empty nothingness, it's knowing the difference between someone who wants to really get know you and date you and someone who is still playing.
I know that many people that read the title of this blog probably turned up their face, or gave it the side-eye, but continue reading and allow me to explain.
One of the things that make me cringe is whenever I read a quote or a phrase that states "failure is not an option". I get it, I understand what the phrase is trying to say but some of the best advice that I can give you is that it's okay to fail.
From "situationships" to "nothingships" to just plain old "dumbships", I've found myself in all of them and it got to the point in which I questioned if love even exists and if it does is it even for me. Maybe it's just not meant for me to have someone special in my life. Because of that thinking, I found myself callused and not really caring. I became numb based on past experiences and let that warmth and belief in who I was slowly "die" with every heartbreak. It was if a part of me left with each person I allowed into my space when they didn't deserve a seat at the table.
The main thing to remember about distractions is to not allow them to keep you out of the game, to not allow them to rule your thoughts and your processes. We all deal with distractions, sometimes they are even needed to get us recentered and refocused on what's important just make sure that you learn how to handle them in a way that is for your benefit and not against it and you should be good.
You see God has already given us the "land", we just have to go in and claim it. So, what is taking us so long? It's simple, most of the time its fear.
You have heard me say this time and time again, but fear is the enemy of purpose! Anytime you choose to let fear win, you are allowing purpose to die. Fear and Purpose can't co-exist.
So let's just say Jesus was in the U.S. right now, he would've been born to poor immigrant parents, looking for sanctuary or somewhere safe to birth their child. The child is born, becomes a laborer, lives in one of the roughest & neighborhoods (Nazareth wasn't the suburbs). He grows up, leaves home with a crew of fishermen and other people who more than likely also looks like him, was homeless at times looking for a place to stay and food to eat. He speaks his mind against social injustices hung with the "sinners" and rode on a donkey to be crucified for the very people that rejected him. So he can save them out of love.
Yes, we are supposed to live according to GOD's word, but how are you truly living if you never allow yourself to learn the one who wrote created the word in the first place. To do that, I had to lose the idea of who I thought GOD was to learn who he truly is in my life. I had to (and I still am) losing what 36 years of thinking and living was to gain a lifetime of living for GOD.
One of the things that I'm learning is that I can be pretty hard on myself, okay, not pretty hard, VERY hard on myself and this morning as I was praying, I was feeling discouraged because I felt as if I wasn't really moving any further in my walk with GOD. Have you ever felt like that? Like you have been walking on your faith walk and yet you still don't feel as if you got any further than you were when you started?
If you don't know an accountability partner is someone who coaches another person in terms of helping the other person keep a commitment and if you're serious about walking in your purpose and moving that purpose to impact, having a great accountability partner is crucial in helping you accomplish your goals. Here are five tips to help you in choosing one.
Proverbs 4:23 says that "Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it." Often times we get into situations with people whose "heart conditions" don't match our own. Meaning the status (emotionally and spiritually) of their heart does not match the status of yours. Example, I I once talked to someone who told me that the current condition of his heart it black, yup..black. Knowing that how in the world could I expect someone who is dealing with that much emotional pain to handle my heart if I put it in his hand? I'm learning through God that people are the exact physical representations of the emotional and spiritual state of their heart.
You can’t live in someone else’s potential- Meaning, you cannot live your life, waiting for the potential that you see in someone or something. Especially a relationship, even more so, especially a relationship with someone that doesn’t see value in you or the relationship. When you find yourself doing this, you will always find yourself waiting and hoping for something that is not meant to be.
This past summer I was going thru a really rough time in life. I was going through this because I was holding my value next to things that I was told I should have by this age in life. A marriage, a child/children, great paying job, house, car..picket fence..and the list goes on. I was allowing others to define my happiness or lack of it. I was allowing society to tell me that I would be single forever, that my black wasn't beautiful, that the things and causes that I fight or and believe in was ludicrous and it was exhausting and tiring
This is going to be one of the most honest blogs that I have written so far. One of the things that I want to do is use my writing and blog to not only help others but to also be transparent so that my readers know that I'm writing about this because I have been there and If I can help you through my experiences, I will do just that.
Let me be honest, I can't with all truth say that I'm someone that it totally convinced in the whole new year resolution and/or the whole "new year-new me" mantra. The thing is, I don't want to be a new version of myself, I just want to be the best version of myself. I now know that to be that, I will need to focus more on the inner-me and the me that GOD has destined me to be versus the me that everyone else thinks that I am.
In honest transparency, sometimes it can seem as if everything is a wonderful life of "sunshine and butterflies" and that when you take the step to walk in purpose everything is "easy breezy". Guess what, that is not the case! Sometimes life gives you lemons and sometimes you just don't want to walk, let alone take the challenge to walk in purpose (raise your hand if you ever just felt unable to can...as I slowly raise my hand). If you raised your hand, keep reading.