Can I be honest? Can I be real with you? Lately I've been learning a lot about myself. I'm learning that I tend to always look at the bright side of things-no matter what (it's as if it is ingrained in my DNA), I'm learning that I tend to be a cheerleader for others but I don't often cheer myself on, I've learned that in relationships (friendships, family. professional, romantic) I tend to care deeply for others and sometimes I wear my heart on my sleeve. Some of these things aren't bad, sometimes you need that person that brings sunshine when it's dark, sometimes it's okay to care as long as it is reciprocated (if it's reciprocated no matter what the relationship or situation is walk away with the lesson and keep it moving) but the one thing that I'm learning about myself that I don't like it is that I apologize way too much! I know, we are supposed to say sorry when we do wrong, but outside of apologizing for being wrong, not all apologies are necessary.
Let me explain, I was raised to be respectable. Like most women, we are taught to smile, be nice, courteous and to treat people how you want to be treated. Here's the deal with that, though it teaches us to be "good" people, it also teaches us to be modest at times when we should be strong. The crazy part is I'm not alone in this, there are whole studies done on the subject of women and saying sorry (check it out here- http://www.livescience.com/8698-study-reveals-women-apologize.html ) even comedy skits are done emphasizing this very topic -(check one out here-http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/05/14/amy-schumer-im-sorry-not-sorry_n_7276504.html). As a matter of fact, even this morning when I was riding the bus on my way to work, the young lady sitting next to me apologized to me because it was time for her to get off the bus and I had to move so that she can leave. She apologized because it was time for her to get up! That got me thinking about how many times I have a simply apologized for something that didn't really warrant an apology. If I took the time time look back at the past three days, I'm sure that I apologized one too many times unwarranted. Example, yesterday I was texting a friend of mine during a television show that they like to watch, when I realized that I texted them during the whole show what did I do, texted back "I'm so sorry", what was their response "It's really no big deal". That's the thing, sometimes we are so busy apologizing for things that are "really no big deal".
We (this includes you if you are an apologist right with me-hand raised) have to learn how to live unapologetically. Whether you are ready to start your own business, walk in your destined purpose, enter a new chapter of your life....whatever it is do it unapologetically! Go in strong and believe in yourself, because 9x's out of 10 it's really no big deal.